74: A Simple Stoic Principle For A Better Life (Archive)

I'm unsure if you've ever taken a moment to notice, but life naturally falls into two distinct parts. The first part grants us control over everything, while the second part is where control slips away.

As humans, we often find ourselves fixated on the second part, driven by a desire to manage every aspect of our lives. This inclination frequently ushers in negative emotions like sadness, worry, and fear.

Similar to many, I too used to dedicate more attention to this second part. However, a transformative shift occurred when I embraced the understanding that I cannot control everything; suddenly, life took on a much brighter hue.

1. Letting go of the attempt to control external factors unburdens us from unrealistic expectations and anxieties tied to things beyond our influence. This liberation of mental space and emotional energy reduces stress, fostering a calmer state of mind.

2. Acceptance of what lies beyond our control nurtures a sense of serenity and contentment. Ceasing to struggle against the inevitable, we learn to navigate the current of life, leading to enhanced inner peace and emotional stability.

3. Redirecting energy towards what we can control—our thoughts, actions, and choices—enhances focus and productivity. We become more effective in our pursuits, channeling less time and energy into futile attempts to alter what resides beyond our sphere of influence.

1. Shift your focus from elements beyond your control, such as weather or others' actions, inward. Identify what you can control in each situation—your thoughts, emotions, and responses.

2. Acknowledge that certain things, like the behavior of others or unforeseen events, lie beyond your influence. Embrace them without resistance or judgment.

3. Rather than succumbing to external obstacles, invest your energy in self-improvement. This could involve mindfulness practices, acquiring new skills, or cultivating positive relationships.

[Book] Enchiridion by Epictetus

We should always be asking ourselves: 'Is this something that is, or is not, in my control? - Epictetus

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